Some widow/widowers say that dates who ask them about their departed spouse say made it easier for them.
They admit that they didn’t feel like it was something they had to bring up or avoid during conversations out of consideration for the date’s feelings.
Try not to dwell on it: if they’re dating after becoming widowed, then it’s because they’re ready.
Put yourself in your date’s shoes Think of how you want to be treated and how you would feel if you were in that position.
Claudia Jean says think about "How do you want to be loved? Do you want loneliness to follow your spouse to his or her grave, or do you want to have the love you had for each other move forward?
"If your new love interest constantly talks about the former spouse, this is not good.
"If after a few months of dating, this goes on and the deceased partner’s clothes are still in the closet or his or her voice is still on the message machine, it’s a sign that [your date] is not ready to move on." According to experts, the key to creating a healthy relationship is " is to manage your own emotions while giving your date some time to manage his or hers".
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That’s never more important than when you’re beginning to date again after losing your spouse.For one, the person may still have strong feelings tied up in the previous relationship and it’s untimely end. In fact, they most likely have not dated for a considerable length of time that they may have forgotten how to approach it again.This could lead you to question that previous relationship. Claudia Jean, creator of a seminar series on a mid-life dating, says "there may also be a lingering sense of ‘cheating’ that must be worked through.When you’re with a widower or widow, dating is a new beginning for them, so make sure you keep an open, positive mind. If you’re fun, compassionate and willing to listen, you’re sure to be just who they’re looking for. REDEFINING OVER-THE-HILL FORSINGLE BABY BOOMERS (AND YES, EVEN SOME OF YOU GEN X-ERS Being 40 and single truly is different than being single in your 20’s and 30’s. Wouldn’t you hope that the new love would be fond of your memory?